Membership in Club Tonka Volleyball, per assignment to a team and completion of the Club Tonka Letter of Commitment form, or participation in any Club Tonka program or event, assumes adherence to all policies and procedures set forth in the Parent/Player Manual.   

Table of Contents
1. Code of Ethics 7. Team Potluck 13. Fundraising & Scholarships
2. Club Tonka Staff 8. Playing Other Sports 14. Policies, Practice, Tournaments, etc.
3. Contact Information 9. Physical Training Precautions 15. Travel – Information/Guidelines
4. Club Philosophy 10. Movement Between Teams 16. Communication – Team Snap
5. Historical Information 11. Membership and Other Club Fees 17. Grievance Procedures
6. Tryouts 12. Recruiting & College Bound Athlete 18. Parent/Player Pledge


Character Development Guidelines for Parents & Players
We believe the primary goal of sport is to build character while teaching the fundamentals of the game. Our foundation for this code begins with a strong faith and belief that God is first in our lives. This statement promotes six core ethical values: trustworthiness, respect, responsibility, fairness, caring and citizenship. Parent/fan involvement and cooperation is essential to the success of our program.  While attending competitions please maintain a positive environment to assist in the development of character.


  • Always act so as to encourage and model trust. Teach your children the meaning and importance of trustworthiness.
  • Be honest and demand honesty from your children. Do not engage in or permit dishonesty by lying, deception or omission.
  • Teach and model the importance of integrity by doing the right thing even when the cost is high. Admit your mistakes openly and honestly as a demonstration of integrity.
  • Keep commitments. Do what you say you will do when you say you will do it to impress on your children the values of promise keeping and reliability. If you are unable to keep a commitment, apologize to those who were depending on you.


  • Treat everyone, including your children, with respect, courtesy and consideration and require your children to treat others with similar respect. Show appreciation for the efforts of all players. Avoid and prevent put-downs, insults, name-calling, yelling and other verbal or nonverbal conduct likely to offend, hurt or simply set a bad example. Promote politeness and use of “please”, “thank-you” and “excuse me”.
  • Let the coach’s coach, the referee’s ref, and the player’s play. Cheer and encourage vigorously but do not confuse players or impede coaches by shouting instructions to players from the sidelines. During a game, do not interfere with a coach’s judgement on substitutions, plays or assigned positions. Do not challenge the calls of a referee/umpire /official during or after a game. Some refs and lines people may be young, diligent players. Give them some amount of grace. Our coaches may speak to adults in charge to affect difficult refereeing.
  • Teach and help players be on time and that others are depending on them to be where they should be when they should be.
  • Teach players to treat others as individuals recognizing and appreciating their diversity in skills, gender, ethnicity and race. Never permit statements or acts of prejudice.
  • Listen and respect players’ opinions and answer their questions without being defensive or arbitrary. 


  • Always exercise and demand self-control. Do not lose your temper. Don’t throw things, scream, or otherwise demonstrate uncontrolled anger toward any player, including your child, a coach or referee/umpire/official.
  • Teach and model self-discipline and a sense of duty to meet obligations even when it is difficult or unpleasant.
  • Teach and model the idea of pursuing excellence measured by doing one’s best, not by winning. Teach your children to win and lose with grace, that character is measured by how you played the game and that they can always hold their heads up high when they have done their best.
  • Teach and model accountability by accepting responsibility for your choices; both actions and inaction. 


  • Teach and model fair play. Make sure players understand the importance of playing honorably.
  • Teach and model fair-mindedness by being fair and open to ideas, suggestions and opinions of others. 


  • Teach and model compassion for others. Discourage selfishness. In your relations with players, coaches, referees/umpires/officials, and other parents treat others the way you would want to be treated.
  • Help to assure that a player’s experience is one of fun and enjoyment. Correct and instruct in positive constructive ways. Be generous with your praise when it is deserved. Compliment all players when they have done something well. Again, show support and appreciation for the efforts of all players.
  • Demonstrate sincere interest in each player’s efforts and support the team as a whole.


  • Teach and model the importance of obeying laws and rules as an obligation of citizenship. Teach how unfair it is for some people to play by the rules while others don’t.
  • Teach and model respect for the environment and the obligation to contribute to the greater good.

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